Firstly, I would like to say thank to all of you who have sent your caring thoughts and healing wishes for my mother. She continues to improve and will be home again in no time.
Tonight I want to share some words from my friend, Patty. She posted this on Facebook today and I immediately thought that it may be useful to those of you who are struggling with the loss of a parent and the possessions that are left behind. Dealing with them can be a challenging and time-consuming process.
Some of us are struggling with our elderly parents; in our care, in their death; in recent passing. My garage downstairs is full of my parents’ lives, and every time I go to unpack it, and sort it, I am taken back to my childhood and the re-living of this emotion is draining and emotionally exhausting. As much as we loved our parents, there’s a lot of “stuff” to be dealt with, in a practical way.
I hope this might help you? The Amen is complimentary. Light a candle, and say this out loud. Tears are optional. It’s all release. No rules.
To my parents, grandparents, and my earthly ancestors who came before me, thank you.
Thank you for your love and guiding wisdom.
Thank you for loving me, every day; in every way.
Thank you for all of your hard work, your concern, and your complete acceptance of me and my spirit.
Thank you for your precious gift of life and love.
It is received with gratitude.
Thank you for our family, for all of the good times, for your precious memories.
I am now able to live my own adult life, and walk with my face towards the sun.
I shall swing my arms with happiness and freedom, knowing that this is what you want me to do.
Mum and dad, I release you, with love. Thank you for everything.
I love you all, forever.
I will remember you with respect and gratitude. Thank you.
I release you all, back to the universe. I release you all; back to the earth and beyond. Thank you.
It is so.
Remember, it is the memories that are important and will sustain you. The stuff is a separate issue.
This could not have come at a better time for me Fairy. My Mother passed away 16 years ago and my Father passed away 13 years ago. I have had all their ‘stuff’ in various cupboards, some things have gone over the years but I have been unable to part with the last few things. We had a garage sale at the weekend and today I took everything that did not sell to our local St Vincent de Paul shop, with a heavy heart as the last remaining things from Mum and Dad were among the items. Reading your blog tonight made me feel so much better knowing that others have this same dilemma and it is ok to cut the ties by letting their stuff go. It also helps to know that someone else will benefit from these items and any money raised goes to a good cause. Having all these things sitting on shelves in my cupboard helps no one.
Thank you again, I can go off to sleep with a light heart and clear consience.
I am pleased to hear that you are feeling lighter after the garage sale and Vinnie’s run. It is very difficult but definitely made easier by knowing that others are having similar struggles.