What Matters to Me

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I read an Instagram post recently which a friend had posted. She was reflecting on what retirement meant to her but I particularly liked the following sentiment – “filling your days with things that matter – people, purpose, memories…..”. This really resonated with me. Despite having been retired from full-time work for nearly 7 years my days are full. Not frantic or struggling to keep my head above water but filled with things that matter. What a perfect phrase. Thank you, Judith, for enunciating this so clearly.

In fact, almost exactly 7 years ago, on 1st March 2019 I wrote this post where I explained that I had decided to do away with telling myself or anyone else that I was busy. I was actually still working full-time at that point although retirement was but a few months away.

My days are very different to what they looked like then. I rarely set an alarm unless we have some specific reason. I am certainly never bored and I feel that there is purpose in what I do.

Purposeful activity can look very different for everybody. Of course, it can vary wildly from week to week.

Travel and holidays are a highlight but the ordinary and mundane also add value.

My major activity, as it has been for the past month, is sorting and decluttering the huge amount of toys, games and puzzles. These have served the Occasional Child Care program at the local Neighbourhood Centre well for over 15 years, however, that program is no longer happening. The idea is to retain a quantity of the best quality items for a future program catering to a small number of children and rehome the rest.

No ‘before’ shots but this is one cupboard which is now sorted and easy to locate the contents.

It is timely as our town has a Town-Wide Garage Sale on the first Saturday in March.

Some of the goodies set aside to sell.

More than a little of my time was taken up in the early part of the week negotiating the wonders of our car insurance and submitting a claim after a relatively minor vehicle accident. Thankfully, it was not much worse.

I made some more reusable carry bags to donate to the Community Pantry. There were 6 made using various combinations of the patterned fabric and co-ordinating plain pieces. The patterned fabric was sourced from my community decluttering efforts so it was used thoughtfully.

Other sewing has been altering some tops for a friend. She wanted some side splits in several tops. This is one that I have completed.

Walking the dog every day serves multiple purposes – exercise for Islay, exercise for us and the opportunity to engage and socialise with numerous folks in our town. It is a rare day when don’t stop and chat with at least one person along the way.

When she is not walking Islay has a pretty easy life. This was when she was being bathed by the housesitters while we were away. She definitely is due for another bath as she enjoys having a dustbath in an empty garden bed.

Maintaining and nurturing friendships is a valuable activity and can occur in many ways. In the past few weeks I have been fortunate to reconnect online with some of my earliest work colleagues. March 1st marks 50 years since we commenced our student nurse training and through the wonders of the internet I have been able to chat with ladies from our group whom I have not seen since we completed our training 47 years ago. Needles to say, there is a get-together planned for May and I am looking forward to catching up in Brisbane.

This photo was taken in 1976 when I first started my student nurse training.

Have you considered what matters and how your life is purposeful?

Another Farewell

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Excuse my absence but it has been a pretty tough few weeks.  Just 2 weeks after Mr Kitty’s death we had to make the heartbreaking decision to say goodbye to our much-loved dog, Harvey.  He had been a part of the family for almost 15 years.

We had known for a couple of years that the day would come when we would have to make a decision to alleviate his suffering.  When we came back from our holiday about a month ago, it was obvious that it would be cruel to prolong his life for much longer.  His crippling arthritis  had reduced his mobility to almost zero as well as heart failure.

Our kind and compassionate vet came to our home and Harvey was surrounded by those of us who loved him as he gently went to sleep for the last time.

We have wonderful memories of our special boy.  Here are a couple of the last photos I took of him on Thursday morning.

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Vale Mr K

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Today has been a sad day as our adopted cat, Mr Kitty, died during the night.  He was 16, had lived a good life and was much loved by many.

He had become somewhat frail over the past 12 months but here are a couple of photos of him from a few years ago.

He was very placid and tolerant and loved nothing more than welcoming guests to our home.

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Goodbye to a beautiful boy.

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Friday Flashback

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Tonight I want to share this post from 2011.  It is rather timely as I have noticed that one of the consistently highest categories of our spending is ‘house and garden’.  There is always something that needs doing.

This morning I went to Maleny.  I had several things to do and they all cost money.  I began to think about this and realised that we would have none of these expenses if we lived in the city.  Mind you there would be other costs, and wild horses would not drag me back to suburbia.

I picked up our 4 new point of lay pullets, otherwise known as the new chickens.  Here they are.

2011-12-12 01Then I paid for the repairs to the ride-on mower.

2011-12-12 02The Duke had managed to break a link in the steering when he last used it.  We have sloping land which is scattered with volcanic rocks (boulders, actually) which are mostly submerged and other obstacles such as large tree roots.  We need this mower as there is a lot of grass to keep mowed.  Here is part of the backyard.

2011-12-12 03I took Psycho Dog to the vet as I had found another 2 paralysis ticks on him this morning.  He had one a couple of months ago which made him quite sick but luckily this time he is not too bad.  It will still cost me quite a bit for the antidote.

I have bought a new tick collar (due for one) today, also.

My final purchase for the day will be online.  I am going to buy a set of dog clippers so that I can keep his coat really short as that is the only feasible way to be able to find the ticks. The cost of the set of clippers is less than one dose of tick antidote so a cost-effective purchase.  Previously, a friend would clip him about every 4-5 months but because of the extreme tick season this year he needs clipping about every 3 weeks.  She is no longer doing it so I have decided to do the clipping myself.  He is a border collie with a thick, double-coat which makes it almost impossible to locate the ticks.  We live in a tick-prone area but the ticks are particularly bad this year.  Perhaps it is because of the wet summer we had last year?

This is what Psycho Dog looks like when he is clipped.  I think he is quite handsome.

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